Building Intimacy With God Is A Process: Three questions we must ask ourselves
“Building intimacy with God is a process that requires intentionality and time; deciding and choosing my priorities with thoughtful care.”
I mentioned last week my Sweet Man, and I quietly celebrated thirty-two years of marriage. The intimacy we share today is more significant than it was when we first began.
Real intimacy in any relationship requires time, intentionality, and investment. It is building something from the ground up.
Building intimacy with God is much the same.
Intimacy with God is a process that requires intentionality and time; deciding and choosing my priorities with thoughtful care.
It is building from the ground up, adding layer after layer, with each encounter.
I shared these words recently on social media:
“Can I be honest?
Coming to God with expectation took many years for me.
Some of which were dark, due to my sin and my bent to check off the boxes. Days of laying my agenda before Almighty God simply expecting Him to bless the list.
Today, the pictures above, in my stories, show my personal journey where real change and refining are taking place.
I gave up on the illusive quiet time. Today, you’ll hear me describe the time as “Soul Care and Prayer.”
Rather than a list or agenda, I go before the Lord with the expectation of what He will reveal to me through His Word. His goodness, faithfulness, justness, righteousness, grace, mercy, and so much more.
It’s not about me. It is about God.
My pen and journal open and ready to capture Scriptures, thoughts, revelations, and prayers.
Building intimacy with God is showing up day after day after day. It can’t be bought. And though I’ve tried, it cannot be manufactured nor rushed.
‘He must increase, but I must decrease.’ John 3:30″
We begin building intimacy with God by asking three questions:
- Is intimacy with God a priority in my life?
- Am I willing to invest time?
- Am I approaching the Sacred Text to get something or to see the character of God?
Before we examine the questions, let’s read Luke 10:38-42.
“Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching. But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, ‘Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.’ But the Lord answered her, ‘Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things,but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.'” (ESV)
If you are of the female persuasion, likely you have heard this passage of Scripture many times.
Martha, distracted by serving a Pinterest worthy meal and the lack of help from Mary is frustrated.
You’re in the kitchen preparing a meal meant to impress, frazzled by the pressure you and society have placed upon you to serve up perfection. Am I right? The struggle is real!
Jesus reminds Martha that Mary has her priorities in order, and it is the most important thing.
Is building intimacy with God a priority?
Where we invest our time will reflect our priorities. How badly do we want intimacy with God? Is it enough to compel us to rearrange our priorities? Or, is it something we squeeze in if and when we can.
When there is a longing to know someone intimately, we will move mountains.
Are we willing to move mountains to spend time with Almighty God, the Creator of the Universe, the One who knit you and me together in the womb?
He called us by name, chose us, and made a way to redeem us. Are we willing to do what needs to be done to cultivate an intimate relationship with God?
Mary wanted to know Jesus more than she wanted to impress him with a meal.
Are we willing to invest time to build a relationship with God? If so, how?
We make time for the things we want, and then we prioritize our time accordingly.
Before I decided to stop coloring my hair, covering my gray roots took precedence. It was important to me at the time. Therefore, I arranged my schedule around the monthly appointment. No. Matter. What.
If building an intimate relationship is our priority, then we must be willing to put in the time.
“Building intimacy with God is showing up day after day after day. It can’t be bought. And though I’ve tried, it cannot be manufactured nor rushed.”
Am I approaching the Sacred Text to get something or to see the character of God?
When I go before the Lord pridefully expecting him to bless my agenda, yes I am cheating myself. I’m not building intimacy with God; instead, I am looking to get something from Him. I want something changed. I need something to happen.
Don’t misunderstand me, going to God with our needs is okay. I’m not saying that it isn’t. God is in the business to fix things, to make things better. However, He sees them differently. He has the ultimate plan, and it is perfect whether it suits our wants or not. God knows what’s best. Me, I’m going to fulfill my selfish desires.
When we approach the Sacred Text to see who God is, we learn his character, and we began to see a faithful, steadfast God.
More than the details or quick fixes, we should want to see the character of God.
When we build intimacy, layer upon layer, and begin to see the character of God, we are compelled to worship Him. We want more of Him. We taste and see and know that He is good.
“Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.”
What will you choose today?
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Your Wilderness Guide,
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“There is no space to live well or love well, much less pursue the God who created us to be in fellowship with Him. We close the gap between what we need and what we want with more. Our spinning lives and broken hearts are empty while appearing full. We paste a smile on our face and tell anyone who asks we are okay while inside we are shattering a million different ways.” -Mornings In The Word