“The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things.”

Henry Ward Beecher (quote found on page 175)


We are smack in the middle of the dog days of summer in these parts. Stepping outside can leave one puddled on sizzling ground. By mid~morning blinds are drawn shut, warding off sweltering heat. I am missing open windows, outside sounds, and gentle breezes sweeping over me.

It’s become a haven of sorts. Stillness and quiet lead me to still waters, a place of refreshing. A place of contemplation and thinking. I am a thinker. A ponderer, sitting for hours, giving space to thoughts and wondering awe.

I’ve been working my way through The Happiness Dare by Jennifer Dukes Lee. I don’t personally know Jennifer, though I feel I have come to know her through the words she pens.

I was drawn in by her latest book, the importance of finding your happiness style. Letting go of thoughts that my own happiness style has to look like someone else’s. There’s freedom in that, especially as women bent to compare ourselves to others and find we come up lacking. Or so we thought. “Comparison robs us of our happiness.” ~JDL 

I know that to be true, having been there myself many times over.

The importance of finding your own happiness style, begins with learning the five styles of this oft illusive state.

The Doer. The Relater. The Experiencer. The Giver. The Thinker.

You may find a bit of yourself in each of these. As learned the ways, the pitfalls, of each style, I knew precisely where I landed.

I spent most of my life being a doer, busily moving from one thing to the next. Making and checking off to do lists, wearing myself out. Often resenting others who seemingly languished in life while I did all the work. Sound familiar?

As I journeyed through the book, walking down memory lane, I saw how God moved me from a doer to a thinker using the onslaught of chronic illness. Showing me new ways, showing me how to find happiness in this place.

I am a better version of myself today. A better version of what God created me for. I appreciated learning the pitfalls of a thinker, most I have landed in at some time or another.

“Your inquisitive, wandering, wild mind doesn’t make you weird; it makes you wonderful.” ~JDL

I would love to reach across the table, take your sweet face in my hands, urge you to read this book; The Happiness Dare. Urge you to identify your sweet place of happiness along with the pitfalls we can fall in. I would urge you to take The Happiness Style Assessment

“Here’s the good news. If you want to be happier, you can stop wishing for someone else’s life and discover happiness in the one you have.”

“Happiness isn’t unholy, it’s just misunderstood.”

~Jennifer Dukes Lee~

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Gifts of Grace

Tammy Mashburn