Coffee and Reflections: October Edition

Coffee and reflections is a monthly reflection on what has passed and what is to come, a regular coffee date between you and me.

Dearest Readers,

We are a full week into November; the winds are howling, raindrops fall in gigantic plops. The fireplace comforts and warms me as I drink coffee and think of you.

October is my most loved month, the breath between the end of one season and the busyness of the next. This October has been particularly hard in The Wilderness Place. I found myself in desperate need of a spiritual retreat.

October was a month of trials for us.

October has been a month of trials for us.

It was as if we were riding one wave after another and hanging on with our fingernails, whispering prayers and desperate pleas with every breath. In the midst of my complaining, I nearly drove my Sweet Man out to sit on the corner of the roof (Proverbs 25:24). Every ounce of grace I had, was tainted with impatience, and five hundred and ten “whys.”

Trials are not meant to destroy us but grow us stronger, developing endurance and faith. But, oh Sweet Friend, when you are in the messy middle, it does not feel that way. I expect you think much the same in your trials.

God blessed us near mid-month with His provision of what I have dubbed a view into the rearview mirror. We had a glimpse of the “why,” the boundaries and protection He placed around us. These are the moments I record in my journal as treasures for the next trial.

Trials are sometimes boundaries meant for our protection that we cannot see.

My Sweet Man’s Birthday

My Sweet Man’s birthday came and went, celebrating his years quietly with our small group, and later at our favorite downtown restaurant with his sister, who also has an October birthday. Decadent dessert and good coffee ended the celebration.

A stack of good books

A pile, of good books, brought comfort as I sat by our recently gifted fireplace.

  • Remember God by Annie F. Downes
  • Invitation to Retreat by Ruth Haley Barton
  • Into the Deep by Lauren Gaskill
  • All That’s Good by Hannah Anderson
  • A Diary of Private Prayer by John Baillie
  • Marilla of Green Gables by Sarah McCoy

I highly recommend them all!

I would love to hear from you!

I would love to hear from you, how your October was, the things that lay heavy against your heart, or what you may be holding tight. What you are reading.

I have come to realize my passion for this small place is to share my experiences as a sort of Wilderness Guide in your hard places as I walk through mine. I do hope you will come along with me!

I will leave you with this quote from Dallas Willard:

“If you don’t come apart for a while, you will come apart for a while.”

Your Wilderness Guide,

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I’m blessed to serve you in this place, to share with you the Gifts of Grace as I journey through the wilderness. I picture you across the table, hands wrapped tightly around your cup, sharing life, and laughter, and tears. As I share with you, my daily struggles, I long to hear what yours may be. You can do that by commenting below or reaching out to me here.

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